Sunday, June 29, 2008

A Pale Blue Dot


There are only a few things that excite my beloved husband, and space is definitely one of them. He has more knowledge of space, Mars, and NASA in his pinky toe than I will ever have in my entire enormous brain. I'm so happy that he has found this thing that he loves and I have been thinking for a while that I want to try and get him a telescope. Until then, we settled for the "Star Party" at Bogus Basin last night. After an insane and seemingly endless drive up Bogus Basin Road (I didn't believe you Wes. It was awful. I will never doubt you again.) at ten o'clock last night we finally pulled into a pitch-black parking lot full of cars. There were about a dozen different high powered telescopes set up and you could stand in line to look at planets and stars. Now I'm not at all interested in this stuff, and it was dark as hell, and the drive took about every ounce of patience I had, but it was incredible. We only looked through two telescopes, both of which were pointed at Saturn. I'm not ashamed to tell you all that it was one of the most breathtaking things I've ever seen. It was humbling and makes you feel insignificant in a completely happy way.

It reminded me of an excerpt from a lecture given by the astronomer Carl Sagan, talking about a picture of Earth taken from space. It's long, but for me anyway, it helps during those times I'm feeling extra self-involved or sorry for myself.

"We succeeded in taking that picture [from deep space], and, if you look at it, you see a dot. That's here. That's home. That's us. On it, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever lived, lived out their lives. The aggregate of all our joys and sufferings, thousands of confident religions, ideologies and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilizations, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every hopeful child, every mother and father, every inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every superstar, every supreme leader, every saint and sinner in the history of our species, lived there on a mote of dust, suspended in a sunbeam.

The earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that in glory and in triumph they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of the dot on scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner of the dot. How frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds. Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity -- in all this vastness -- there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves. It is up to us. It's been said that astronomy is a humbling, and I might add, a character-building experience. To my mind, there is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly and compassionately with one another and to preserve and cherish that pale blue dot, the only home we've ever known."

Thursday, June 26, 2008

The Very Best Song

I heard this song for the first time about two years ago and immediately listened to it thirty times in a row. I've played it more than any of the other five thousand songs on my Ipod, by a factor of ten. It's the song I listen to when it's all too much. It's the song I sing to G and the one I sing the shit out of when I'm alone in the car. As long as I live I will never get sick of it.

If you don't love it consider yourself dead to me.

P.S. It's called "Maybe Sparrow" and Neko Case is singing. Now go buy all of her albums.

Bless You Blue Shampoo

This pic does it no justice. It is full-on yellow and white. SEXY!!
Who on earth would do such a stupid thing?! And with her pasty complexion? She is clearly blind.


Yes, I'm impulsive. Yes, I'm sometimes cheap. Yes, I get extremely bored looking at the same stupid face everyday. And yes, I have a tendency to grossly overestimate my hair styling abilities. All of this, along with the fact that I can never get in to see my hairstylist because she is so awesome and busy, leads us to the disastrous at home bleach job you see before you. It was a flaming canary yellow hot tranny mess. I begged Darren to shave my head. He wouldn't. So by the power of ten (dozen) washings with blue shampoo, I pronounce it almost bearable. Please go ahead and laugh. Something good should come out of this shit situation.

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Not to worry...




I meant for this batch to look like it was made of failure and tears.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Sunday, June 22, 2008

Kung-Fu Lovah



Try your hardest to ignore the mess in the background.

Saturday, June 21, 2008

New Ways to Entertain and Annoy


Griffin's newest "fit" involves just closing his eyes and pretending he can neither see nor hear you. Look for it when you're trying to get him dressed, trying to get him to eat something, or turning off Sesame Street. He is such a monkey.

Friday, June 20, 2008

Treasures!



We just came home to a giant surprise package from Grandma Sheryl!! Look at all this cool summer loot! And it's not just toys, Sheryl also sent Gus some great vitamins and these really good antioxidant chocolate bars that G and I love. Yay for healthy treats! Thank you so much Sheryl! I love exclamation points!!!

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Roommate


It seems we have an ugly new friend in the house. I cried and then threw up when I saw this damn bug, no joke. THEN IT FLEW AT ME - AND I DIED.

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Holy Smokes Ya'll

The Niederer posse is trusting me with their family reunion cupcake needs. I am so flippin' excited. I'll probably start baking and freezing this weekend - wish me luck!

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Writer's Block


Sometimes I stress myself out with this blogging crap. When I want to be heartfelt and sincere is has to be perfect, I have to find the exact way to make what I'm feeling translate. It gets hard, and for some reason this Father's Day post has eluded me. Here it is, the best I can do.

Often when parents get divorced the dad hauls ass. Even if he is still physically around, still dutifully picking up his kids and paying his child support, he has emotionally checked out. He moves on. It happens a lot I think. It didn't happen to us. The thing I will remember forever, the thing that gives me strength so often now when I am feeling insecure, is that he never left. He fought for us, he was involved in us, he wanted us, he loved us, he missed us. My dad was ALWAYS excited for us. He wanted to see us, he wanted to know everything. Even when we moved away, he was still present. He drove for hours every other weekend, year after year, and never once did we feel like he resented it. He might have, but he didn't let on. He didn't make us feel like it was our fault. He was so happy to make that drive to Swan Valley, to buy licorice and a pop for the drive back, just to turn around and do it again 48 hours later. I have been thinking about this for days, and I figured out the lesson in all of this. Don't give up. Do not stop fighting for what you love. He cannot know what it means to me, even now, that he was not one of those dads. He so easily could have been. He chose to love me instead.

I have already had the "you're awesome" talk with D, but there is one thing I want everyone (including him) to know. I could not have had a child with anyone else. I'm not sure that makes sense exactly, it doesn't have the impact I mean for it to have. Darren is the only one. He is everything as a parent that I am not. If I had a kid with someone else I would have lost my bloody mind ages ago. Thank you Dodongo. You poo-face.

Sunday, June 15, 2008

Slackajawea


I promise there is a long and mushy Father's Day post in the works but I am super tired and I don't feel like bawling right now. Tomorrow, for shiz.

English major say what?

Darren just kicked my ass mightily in an online game of Scrabble. I bring shame upon the academic world.

Friday, June 13, 2008

Frigid No More





It was nice yesterday! And nicer today! The world makes sense again...

Oh no.

Tim Russert, respected MSNBC journalist and long-time moderator of Meet the Press, died today of a heart attack. I know it's nerdy, but Meet the Press is one of my favorite shows. I can't say I always agreed with his particular brand of journalism, but Sunday mornings won't be the same without him.

You can see Tom Brokaw reporting on it here.

Thursday, June 12, 2008

Nostalgia, Party of Mom


Oh. Ow. Sometimes I watch old videos of my boy and it hurts a little.

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

How to have an uneventful but still awesome* Sunday






Get badass new shoes. Dress in black like Johnny Cash. Play outside for hours with an awesome* flower in your hair. Take a nap. Chase the dog for ten minutes after she steals the badminton thingy (birdie?). Ride bikes to the grocery for corn and pasta salad ingredients. Eat corn. Eat a popsicle.

*Be honest. Do I say "awesome" too much?

Sunday, June 8, 2008

Yogini


Child's pose. Kind of.
Actually a pretty good downward facing dog.
Trying to show Gus back-bends.

Sometimes when I'm super sore from working out I do a few made-up yoga poses before bed and pretend they help. Gus spent a few minutes admiring my sweet moves before he joined me. Neither one of us could stop laughing.

You're welcome for the sexy grey sweatpants and over-sized tee.

Friday, June 6, 2008

Awesome or Terrible Parenting?

We let Griffin watch Blue's Clues. Like kind of a lot. Not 6 hours a day or anything, maybe just one? And a half? Is that bad?

He's starting to get kind of smart about it. I was just feeding the dog out of her paw print covered food holder thingy and Gus was going "A COO A COO". I guess I should explain that on the show there are "clues" covered in blue paw prints and when one pops up on the screen you're supposed to yell "a clue, a clue". So he did that, but in the language of a 22 month old. Right now he is stacking up blocks, exactly as they do in his all-time favorite Blue's episode, simply titled "Blocks". And he's singing one of the songs from the show.

Tell me, blog fans. Does my son watch too much TV?

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

HAIR!!!




We cut Gus's hair. He was pissed at the clipper sound - but now he keeps yelling "HAIR, HAIR, HAIR" and is very excited.

Sunday, June 1, 2008

"She is my sister, and therefore one half of me..."*


"Happy Birthday Munchkin"







This is my intensely beautiful sister. Today is her birthday. Ya'll know how I feel about birthdays. THEY ARE VITALLY IMPORTANT AND MUST BE CELEBRATED EXTRAVAGANTLY. Sadly, she and I live far apart. In lieu of the obnoxious 16th birthday party I would have given her (which she will be getting anyway the next time she comes over here) I'll be taking a minute of your time to honor her via bloggy loo.

Because I am more than a decade older than Lulu I have a type of love for her that is hard to describe. I love her like she is my daughter, but that's not quite it. I love her like that, and like my favorite song, and like the perfect cupcake, and like my best friend, and like who I would want to be if I could start all over. I love her like she saved our family, like I love the way she loves my kid. Like she is so beautiful and athletic and just so damn funny. And lots of other things I can't really explain.

I don't know if she knows, because she is so far away and we are all so busy, but I miss her and think about her 567 times every day. I should call her more. We should all call our siblings more. We should all appreciate and worship and adore our siblings, for the things they reflect back to us about ourselves and where we came from. Because they are half of us. Because all of these relationships are fragile and easy to lose.

I'm making birthday cupcakes for Lindsay, and I'm going to make a wish for her. I'll break the rules and tell ya'll what it is. I wish for her to survive high school with heart, head, and spirit intact. I wish that she would find an amazing college in a city she loves (I vote Boise), and meet dozens of exciting people who can teach her everything and learn everything from her. People who rock climb, and knit, and read Margaret Atwood and Chuck Palahniuk, and know how to make their own beer, and know all the good pizza places. I hope she can live in an apartment with a perfect view and have a goldfish named Merton who she always forgets to feed because she is never home. Because she is out living. I want her to do a semester abroad in Italy or Greece or Russia, and come back with the kind of stories she can tell her grandchildren. I want her to meet a smart, beautiful, caring, exciting man and have ten babies, or none, whatever she wants. But not until she is like 30. I want her to be my next door neighbor forever. I want her to teach Gus how to play softball. I want her to blow us all away. She will.

*This is a quote from "The Other Boleyn Girl" which I have neither read nor watched, but I plan to very soon. I just thought it was beautiful.